By Doug Arnold
Imagine being on a date with someone you are incredibly attracted to. The conversation is great and relaxed, dinner was very nice and things are going really smoothly. Then…IT happens! Your worst fear happens and suddenly the date is sinking faster than a ship that has been torpedoed. A worst case scenario will play in your head if you are particularly nervous about being with this special person.
Things like the above has happened probably since the whole concept of dating began. So what’s your biggest fear? You would probably not be surprised to learn that men and women have different fears while dating. See if any of the following match yours, or worse, anything of the following has actually happened to you on a date!
Men’s fears
1) Saying the wrong thing. If you worry that you’ll say something silly like “I see” to someone with really bad vision, make a Freudian slip, burp, or blurt out the wrong name when talking to your date, join the club (I think the latest membership numbers in the millions!) Take a deep breath, apologize once and explain that you are nervous.
2) Doing the wrong thing. You set your menu on fire by one of the candles on the table, swallow some water down the wrong pipe and spend the next five minutes gasping for air, or even mispronounce something on the menu. Relax. Everyone makes mistakes, so why obsess about it? If your date is cool about it, it may become a funny story you will both tell your children (or grandchildren!)
3) Getting food stuck in your front teeth. You could spend the entire evening not smiling, but that’s not much fun. Run your tongue across your teeth from time to time, check a mirror in the bathroom, and don’t order anything green from the menu!
4) Getting an erection. Unless you are the next John Holmes, most women probably won’t notice. If she does notice, she’ll likely be flattered that she could get such a rise out of you (pun intended!). If this happens, don’t spill some water on yourself as a distraction though.
Women’s fears
1) Getting your period. Nothing to worry about unless you are wearing white. Being nervous really gets your system revving. But it’s completely natural and nothing to be embarrassed about. If you are worried, wear a panty liner and bring an extra pad or two.
2) Hating your date. You are going out because you hope to have a good time, but what happens if your date turns out to be a huge boor who’s self centred and arrogant. Just remember that it’s only one night and you don’t have to see him again.
3) Your date hates you. Even if you think you are very charming, warm and funny, you are bound to come across some people who simply don’t like you. But that’s life. Just like above, remember that it’s only one date and you don’t have to see the person ever again.
It doesn’t matter what your biggest fear is, try to put it into perspective and then put it behind you. Very few blunders are ever fatal. The best thing is, they usually make for great stories later!
About The Author:
Doug has been writing articles online for nearly 3 years now. Although he specializes in topics such as dating and relationships, you can check out his latest website, PlasticCocktailShakers.com, which discusses the various types of plastic cocktail shakers on the market, as well as other accessories you’ll need for that big upcoming cocktail party!
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